And if they (wives) want to learn something, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is shameful for women to speak in church. 1 Corinthians 14:35
This verse is intended for the men of the church, not the women, and Christian men, we must understand the implication.
If our wives are not being spiritually nourished by us and therefore, have been placed in a position of having to get their answers outside of the home, it is a shameful thing. A regular occurrence (husbands) suggests that we are: poor providers for our families, not steeped in the Word of God, and not living submitted lives to Christ Jesus. The shame that comes with that falls directly on the husband.
Even if the husband is doing these things and the wife is still going outside of the home with her questions, the onus still falls upon the husband–that kind of behavior requires his correction.
Is There a Danger ?
For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Matthew 6:21
There most certainly is a danger! We are setting ourselves up for failed marriages, or at the very least, marriages that are not all that they could be. The practice effectively places stumbling blocks before our spouses.
The Bible assures us that our hearts will follow that which we treasure. Therefore, if by our shortcomings we force our wives to ask their questions outside of the home, we run the risk they might begin to treasure the source and ignore the well that has run dry.
Godly men, don’t let it occur! Correct the behavior. It’s the will of God for your marriage.
Men Do Not Have All the Answers
Nevertheless, out of respect for her husband, he should always get the first crack at answering her questions. If he doesn’t know the answer, his best response would be, “Honey, I’ll have to look that up or make my own inquiry and I’ll get back to you.”
If it’s an urgent situation, let the husband determine who should be sought out to provide the answer.
What’s a Wife to Do?
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 1 Peter 3:1-2
Pray. Be in the Word. Bring the uniqueness of your situation before the Lord. Tell your husband that you want him to be the one that you can go to and trust for the right answers. There’s a good chance he’ll respond.
Men, it’s what women want.
But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. 1 Corinthians 11:3
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