And he said, “While the child was alive, I fasted and wept; for I said, ‘Who can tell whether the Lord will be gracious to me, that the child may live?’ But now he is dead; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.” 2 Samuel 12:22-23
The Death of a Child
I’ve never lost a child, so I cannot accurately comprehend how horrible an experience it must be. I know a few people who have lost their young children to cancer and motor vehicle accidents and such, and I’ve witnessed their pain and anguish, but still I can only imagine how they’re suffering. I lost my mom and my dad, and my best friend (my best man at my wedding), but still I know these experiences are not the same. Losing a child has got to be a gazillion times worse and it’s a topic I know little about. The only hope I have to offer a grieving family member is found in the 2 Samuel 12 passage I cited above.
King David is the one who uttered the phrase and it reveals two things to us. First, it’s pretty much the only Bible verse that indicates that when a child dies, he or she goes to Heaven. Additionally, there are indirect references to an ‘age of accountability‘ in the Bible found in Isaiah 7:16 and Romans 1:18. Isaiah makes mention of the time period a child does not know how to choose properly (i.e., in a moral and Biblical sense), while the Romans verse tells us about those who suppress the knowledge that God ultimately reveals to everyone. We can conclude that children, although sinners from birth, do not possess a mature intellect to reject God, and therefore are ushered into Heaven if they pass away prematurely. No one knows for sure the age that this occurs, but suffice it to say, the youngest of the young go to Heaven.
I would say that most grieving parents, regardless if they are Christians or not, believe their lost child has gone to Heaven. Sharing the 2 Samuel 12 passage serves to give them Biblical data to support their foregone conclusion. The only question that remains for the parents at this point is simply, “Do you ever want to see your child again; King David fully intended to see his baby again, but will you see yours?”
Do you ever want to see your child again?”
My mother-in-law (a Christian) recently passed away and I put that very question before the grieving family. In a loving, but bold manner I told them that unless they were born again; that unless they received Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, they would not see their dear mother again. All these folks were well past the figurative age of accountability and it was time to considered the information God had set before them and decide whether or not they were going to suppress the truth or embrace the truth. When the opportunity was given by our pastor to embrace Jesus, it sounded as if most chose wisely, as the funeral home was filled with the wonderful sound of people praying to receive Jesus Christ as their Lord and their Savior.
So it is with the rest of us. If we desire to see any of our loved ones again, we must receive Jesus. Confess to the Lord right now that you’re a sinner and that you’re unable to save yourself. Please mull over the following Bible verses:
- For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23
- For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 6:23
- But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8
- Confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord & believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. Romans 10:9
- Repent therefore, and turn back, that your sins may be blotted out. Acts 3:19
- For everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved. Romans 10:13
- We have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Romans 5:1
- There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Romans 8:1
Obviously if you’re already a Christian, you will be reunited with your child, but if you’re not you will not. Don’t wallow in your pain; grasp onto Jesus and let the hope of Heaven begin to heal your broken heart with the full healing commencing when you finally pass over from this world to the next to be with your Savior and your precious child, forever.
“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, Nor have entered into the heart of man The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.” 1 Corinthians 2:9
But I am ANGRY at God!
I understand, but I can assure you that your anger is misdirected. God did not take your child, but He did receive your child. If you’re mad at God, let me know in a message and I’ll do my best to share with you how and why death entered into our world (did you know we were originally created to not die?). I would also encourage you to attend church — a good church (and I’ll help you find one near you) is like a school — it’s where we go to receive wise counsel and sound instruction. Refusing to go to church is to refuse the answers to your questions.
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