Looking back these many years of marriage I can recall a time when my wife may have likely uttered that very phrase, “I’ve been tricked!” I am ashamed to say that there was a period of time I was not behaving as the Christian man she had met and married. By the grace of God she rode-out the calamity when honestly nobody would have faulted her if she chosen to dump me. I suspect her rage and despair was similar to that of Jacob’s when on his wedding night, his father-in-law switched his beloved and beautiful fiance, Rachel with her less-than attractive sister Leah.
Where’s Rachel?
The story from Genesis is a peculiar one. We know from previous accounts that initially, Jacob loved and adored Rachel —so why is he requesting to be buried next to (gulp) Leah? Well, we don’t know for certain, but I would suggest that something happened in those years with Leah that changed his mind and his heart regarding their relationship; something that was ordained and orchestrated by God.
Rachel was beautiful to behold, and why Jacob was originally drawn to her, but the reality was that God allowed Leah to become his first wife. Through the years, while Rachel had come to display some unflattering qualities, Leah’s inner beauty began to shine forth. In time Leah would bring Jacob his first son, Rueben and afterwards, Judah. God would later reveal to Jacob Judah’s exclusive ancestry regarding the Messiah. His love for Leah grew as God’s plan unfolded. What a tragedy it would have been if Jacob had shunned or discretely dismissed Leah.
God Has a Plan
Jacob was deceived and some would say he had every right to be angry and bitter, but he chose to maintain the course God had laid out before him. Similarly (and all praise be to God) my wife chose to stay the course, despite the reality of my then destructive behavior. In due season, by faith, and by God’s unlimited mercy and grace, these circumstances were resolved; as God redeemed me, He also redeemed our marriage. The reality of your situation might very well be that you married the wrong one, at least in your eyes. However, the divine truth of the matter is that once we say, “I do,” God ordains the relationship, and a vow is still a vow. Whether or not you were duped [like my wife] or now realize your nuptials were in error, that awareness is irrelevant to God.
You’re In the Boat Now
Now it happened, on a certain day, that He got into a boat with His disciples. And He said to them, “Let us cross over to the other side of the lake.” And they launched out. But as they sailed He fell asleep. And a windstorm came down on the lake, and they were filling with water, and were in jeopardy. And they came to Him and awoke Him, saying, “Master, Master, we are perishing!” Then He arose and rebuked the wind and the raging of the water. And they ceased, and there was a calm. But He said to them, “Where is your faith?” Luke 8:22-25
This story exposes a grand and magnificent promise: If Jesus says that we are crossing over to the side, guess what? We are crossing over to the other side; case closed. Once we have committed our relationships, by oath, before the Lord, we have in effect gotten into a boat whose destination is assured. The only way this journey will not succeed is if we ignore the Captain and jump ship. In Christ Jesus, every marriage can endure and find safe harbor.
But I’ve already jumped ship!
It’s all good if you’re all in for Christ. Praise be to God, it’s water under the bridge. In Christ Jesus, we are free of the bonds of our sinful past and free to walk in the will of God. Do not lament, but rejoice! Everything that occurs to the Christian is a blessing from God or a lesson from God. Glean from both and move forward; receive as yours His peace that surpasses all understanding. Could you have done something different? Could you have chosen more wisely? Yes, we know the answer is yes, but Jesus doesn’t want us to carry that burden; He took that load to the cross before we were born! To His glory, the only thing we need to take away from the past is a stronger faith in our Redeemer.
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. Romans 8:1
These articles may or may not be related:
- The Forgotten Chapter of the Christmas Story & the Women in Jesus’ Family Tree. (greatriversofhope.wordpress.com)
- The Deceiver Deceived (lacykitkat.wordpress.com)
- God Loves Justice. (greatriversofhope.wordpress.com)
- Messy Lives: What is God Doing in the Midst of Your Mess? (thesaltlick.tv)
- The ‘Roots’ of Christ (conmakhalira.wordpress.com)
- The Unloved Woman. (greatriversofhope.wordpress.com)
- GOD’S PROMISE – JESUS CHRIST – From the tribe of Judah (ptl2010.com)
- It Remains Tough (briancoatney.com)
- {Advent} The Girl No One Wanted (eyekandiphotography.wordpress.com)
- The Disguises In Genesis (jewishpress.com)
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